Alone together ❤️

I know it sounds like a Fallout Boy song but hear me out. There’s a technical term for it in the ADD world and it’s called body doubling. I call it being alone together and it’s my favorite thing ever. To me this concept is simple, I get more shit done when someone is in the room with me. They don’t have to talk to me or engage in anyway (it’s great if they do) but I get so much shit done that way. OR when I’m feeling down I want to be around people just not necessarily talk to them.

My friends that know me well know when I call and say “hey I got shit I need to get done can I come over and be alone together?!” They just get it. Or if I say “hey wanna come over and hang out while I get shit done?!” OR my favorite is “wanna go to Costco or Aldi and be my emotional support human?” They. Just. Get.it.

For normal people this isn’t a thing. Sometimes I’m good to just turn on music and jam out while I clean or reorganize but most of the time I zone out or get distracted. Then by the end of the day I’ve started 193757595 projects and haven’t completed a damn thing. I’m not sure if this is a ADD thing or just a me thing but if you come over and lay on the couch while I work then I will get SO much done! It’s crazy to me that’s how my brain works. My moms the same way and I definitely get it from her.

I recently had a friend come over and help organize my closet. It started out that she asked me questions while I just talked and trauma dumped on her but it turned into me actually doing the work and her sitting there listening. It worked out great!

So just know when I ask you to come “hang out” or to come over it’s because I’m either extremely overwhelmed and need another human around or I need to get shit done and can’t focus enough to do it alone. I tend to not communicate that well cuz most people don’t get it and think I’m nuts. So if I’ve ever been alone together with you just know how much I appreciate you. You’re a calming presence to me at a time when there’s chaos in my head. I see you, I appreciate you and I’m very thankful for you 😘